Feeling stressed? Here’s a Gentler Way to Cope

Let’s Talk About Stress – With Compassion

Stress is something we all face – but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to deal with. Whether it’s work pressures, family demands, health concerns, or just the mental load of everyday life, feeling overwhelmed can take a real toll on your mind and body.

But here’s the good news: stress isn’t something you have to “power through” alone. With the right support and a few simple tools, it is possible to feel more in control and less on edge. Let’s explore some psychology-informed ways to manage stress – with kindness, not criticism.

1. First, Notice What Stress Feels Like for You

Stress doesn’t show up the same way for everyone. For some, it’s a racing mind. For others, it’s tight shoulders, irritability, trouble sleeping, or just feeling "off."

Try gently asking yourself:

• “What are the signs that I’m getting stressed?”
• “What do I tend to do when I’m overwhelmed?”
• “What usually helps me feel calmer?”

Awareness is a powerful first step. The more you understand your stress signals, the easier it becomes to respond early – before things spiral.

2. You’re Not Lazy – You Might Just Be Tired

Sometimes, when we’re stressed, we judge ourselves for not “keeping up.” But burnout isn’t laziness. It’s a sign that your system is overloaded and in need of rest, not more pressure.

Try shifting your inner voice:

• “What would I say to a friend feeling this way?”
• “Is there a way to rest without guilt?”

Giving yourself permission to slow down can help reset your nervous system – and make everything feel a bit more manageable.

3. Little Breaks Make a Big Difference

When life is full-on, it can feel like you don’t have time to relax. But even short, intentional pauses can help your brain and body recover from stress.

Consider trying:

• A few deep breaths between tasks
• A quick walk or stretch
• A moment of stillness – no phone, no to-do list

It’s not about doing it perfectly – just giving your nervous system a breather can go a long way.

4. You Don’t Have to Cope Alone

Many of us were never taught healthy ways to manage stress – and that’s okay. Support isn’t a weakness; it’s a smart strategy. Talking to someone you trust (a friend, counsellor, or psychologist) can help you process what’s going on and find new ways to cope.

Even just saying:

• “I think I’m struggling more than I realised.”
• “Can I talk this through with someone?”

…can open the door to relief. You deserve support – not just when things are falling apart, but as part of everyday care.

5. Self-Kindness Is a Superpower

When you’re stressed, your inner critic might get loud: “Why can’t I handle this better?” “What’s wrong with me?” But research shows that treating yourself with compassion reduces stress and builds resilience.

You could ask:

• “What would it look like to be on my own side right now?”
• “What do I need most in this moment – and how can I offer it to myself?”

Kindness won’t erase stress – but it does make it easier to navigate.

A Final Thought: You’re Doing the Best You Can

Life is a lot sometimes – and that doesn’t mean you’re failing. The fact that you’re even reading this shows you care about your wellbeing. And that’s a great place to start.

You’re allowed to rest. You’re allowed to ask for help. And you’re allowed to treat yourself with the same compassion you’d offer anyone else.

Need Support?

If you’re feeling overwhelmed and would like to talk to someone, our psychology team is here for you. Whether you need practical tools, emotional support, or just a safe space to be heard, we’re here to help. You don’t have to carry this alone.

Emerald Psychology Practice: Working together towards healthier minds.